Day 27 - Tracking Progress

One of the most helpful things for me in my battle against porn has been tracking my progress faithfully. I have an app on my phone that lets me track each day, whether it was a victory or a setback - and if it was a setback, what time of day, what emotions I was feeling, what location, and on what device.

I've never been on a diet, but I've heard that if you start writing down everything you eat, you tend to eat better, just from the habit of writing it all down. I think the reason people sustain addictions for so long is that they have a warped view of the issue - they don't think it's a big deal or that they really have a pattern of addiction. But seeing that you can't go a week without caving in, puts it in perspective.

The app is called Fortify, and it goes along with a 12-week program to help break the addiction cycle with porn. It does cost about $30, but I have found it to be well worth it. In fact, getting to the place where you can spend money on recovery is itself a good exercise.

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